Grief does that. It waits patiently in the background until you can give it the time and space it needs to bring you back into reality. And the reality is that there is a lot to cry about right now. There’s lots to cry about in our own personal lives, in the lives of others, and globally.

We are encouraged to recover from burnout by taking more time out for self-care, weighing your options, getting some exercise, or getting more sleep. But what if we’re not meant to ‘re-cover’. What if all these symptoms are asking us to look more closely at what we don’t want to return to? What if our bodies are asking us for a significant pivot?

There’s a change in the wind, can you feel it? There seems to be a sense of foreboding, like when we’re watching a disaster film where, before the catastrophe hits, the world is strangely quiet and then the birds suddenly scatter off the trees, or a deer sniffs the air and then bolts away. In our theater chairs, separate casual observers, we don’t know what’s about to strike: a comet? A tidal wave? A super-killer tornado? Aliens?

Trauma is a universal experience for all humans. Even if you had a relatively healthy upbringing and life, the unresolved trauma from your ancestors still lives in your body, passed down through our DNA. We are not necessarily aware of the trauma embedded in our bodies because it does not live in our cognitive areas of the brain. Mostly we might experience it as various unpleasant sensations and pain.

Are you an empath? Or do you have a beloved empath in your life? People who acutely feel the emotional, mental, and even physical states of others are called empaths. They are porous individuals who sometimes find it difficult to sense the difference between their realities and the realities of others. Empaths are the nurturers, healers, carers, the highly sensitive people that give (and give) often to the point of exhaustion and burn out.

We are becoming collateral damage to what I call The Ultimate Distortion. The Ultimate Distortion believes we are separate entities rather than one organic living organism connected with all of creation. From this distortion, we seek to control and victimize, and be victimized by one another. It has shaped culture from the beginning of human history and has set us on a trajectory towards an exponential unraveling, and it is only going to get worse because we are unhinged from the anchor of belonging.

When I’ve watched such scenes in history films, I always assumed that these millions of people had no idea what Hitler was up to. Surely, I thought, they’ve been insulated against the truth of the Third Reich and its butchery. But this is not true. They witnessed their Jewish friends and neighbors being rounded up never to return. They watched newsreels at the movies featuring bomb raids and carnage. These were not stupid and ignorant people and to write them off as such is dangerous because it leaves us ignorant of how such mass indoctrination happens.

Hope flirts on the horizon, yet we have several more months of loss in-store––loss of lives, of livelihoods, homes, holiday gatherings, opportunities, of friendships, memories and security. Nothing has been left untouched by the wraith hands of the virus.

Fifty-six-million years later, in the same place we now call Wyoming, their descendants are working together in perfect harmony, human and horse, to move a herd of cattle off a northern slope into a grassy valley. As the horse gallops up a ridgeline, suddenly the topography changes, and the herd of cattle makes an abrupt shift. In response, the horse effortlessly executes what is known as a flying lead change—a gravity-defying maneuver that allows them to change balance and respond to the changing scenario without losing momentum or unseating their rider. Like this, horses have been our partner in successfully navigating change for thousands of years—the perfect power couple.